Happy commercialized "holiday!"

If you hadn't guessed it by now, this post will have nothing to do with Valentine's Day gift/date/whatever ideas. I HATE the very concept of this alleged holiday, and here's why:

First off, let me say that I'm not a feminist, and not without someone to share this day with - my bitterness runs deeper than that.

 I wholeheartedly reject the idea of professing my love, or expecting an admission or outpour of affection based on a man-made, Hallmark holiday.

It may have all started in Grade 3, when my year-long crush, Stuart Duggan, didn't give me a Valentine's Day card. For days before, I thought about how I was going to subtly tell him we were soulmates, without giving too much away. On his pre-printed Loony Tunes card, I covertly underlined the word "you" in "Will you be mine?" Diabolical genius. Even though every kid was supposed to get every other kid a card, I counted obsessively, over and over, to find that he skipped mine. Little heart=crushed. Stuart, if you're reading this, screw you!

Little known fact about me - I'm now like this with all holidays, but ESPECIALLY with Valentine's Day. My angst-ridden, defy the system, "you can't tell me what the f%$# to do," rebellious inner-adolescent hates the idea of celebrating based on a calendar obligation. The adult in me politetly woo-hoos and chugs a festive drink on holidays. On my birthday, this year, I was in bed by 9 p.m., and switched my Blackberry to silent.

If I'm going to tell someone I love them, or want to do something special, I'm going to do it because I want to. If someone is going to do something special for me, I would rather it be because they really want to. I mean, if I'm expressed affection or appreciation on Valentine's Day, great. I just don't welcome the thought of them being forced. I'd rather nothing at all than I forced "I love/appreciate/tolerate you. Here's a pink/red stuffed animal I spent $39.99 + tax on."

Bitter? Possibly. I've seen enough expectant, and extremely disappointed wives over the years, whose husbands creep through the door with a box of Glosettes and wilted flower from a bucket on the counter at a gas station to know better.

Removing the expectation makes gratitude that much deeper when I give freely for no reason, or get for no reason. If my ideas on expectation change, I'm rarely disappointed.

Never, do I ever want to begin a conversation with "He forgot Valentine's Day... Can you believe it? Well, I know who's not getting any tonight, that's for DAMN sure."

Ugh.

I love, love, LOVE love, and have a life full of it - not only on Feb. 14.

For couples that half share the same sentiment, compromise. Sure, go on a date - but to this:

My Bloody Valentine: 3D!

Why this kick-ass, 3D movie premiered before today, I'll never know. It has everything: a love story for the romantics, wonderful violence for the anti, and 3D awesomeness for EVERYONE.:)

Seriously though - after today, give to each other, love, always, and for no friggen reason.

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